Today I woke up a bit past 12 after I couldn't get myself to sleep last night. It was a if something kept bugging me. Ever since I was a little girl it used to happen to me when something was going to happen.
Well, today I tried phoning the Department of Welfare in Kuruman again but the woman at the switchboard said that there were no social workers in (again). After a while I tried phoning again and I was finally put through to a social worker. I felt so relieved but ended up in tears as I tried to explain my situation to this woman. Her name was Esmeralda.
I was in for the biggest shock in a long time though...
She told me that Dolf (my ex husband) is no longer living in Kuruman. I started crying almost incontrollably as I was trying to make her understand that I have been trying to get hold of Lili but that Dolf wouldn't pick up his phone. She sounded as though he didn't believe me and I felt so frustrated and that just made me cry even more. She gave me Dolf's new work telephone number and home telephone number.
Apparently one of my emails I have sent ended up at the Minister's office and that is the woman who emailed me back and asked me about Dolf's contact details, which I did send back to her but Dolf moved to Bloemfontein 3 weeks ago already and when they visited the house where he used to live, they weren't there.
Again I wasn't notified, but at least it looks like somebody is finaly starting to work on my case. At the moment I'm so scared of hoping because I had to go through so many disappointments already.
Anyway, I ended up handing the phone to Andy to speak to the social worker and he explained to her that I have been calling every day that I was allowed to but that Dolf wasn't answering the phone (he told them that I haven't been calling). So she asked Andy what he expeted them to do, since I'm not in South Africa and they can't take Lili out of Dolf's care and put her back in mine. Andy then told her that my parents were there and I gave her my parents' contact details.
Still, I can't help but be angry. Why didn't she tell me that they would consider taking Lili out of his care, even after I said that I would do anything, even go back to SA if I had to.
I phoned Dolf's house number then and his wife, Elsabe, aswered the phone. She said that Lili wasn't there and she was really rude to me. I asked her if they were going to answer the phone if I phoned later (she said Lili willbe back tonight) and she said that the only reason they haven;t been answering the phone is because I always phone from a different number.
Now that is bullshit (sorry, but I'm fed up and angry).
Dolf knows that I phone from a number that starts with +44 and I have been using the home telephone lately so that I can prove with the itemsed billing that I have been phoning. I also sent him an sms from my new cellphone number on Lili's birthday and asked him to pick up his phone an still he didn't answer.
I will try again in a moment, South Africa is an hour ahead of us, so I will see what happens. For some reason I don't have much hope of talking to her, but if I do, I WILL tell her the truth, even if it means that I wouldn't be allowed to speak to her again, at least she will know why.
To add to my anger, I phoned Johan to speak to Xaynee and he said he doesn't want me to talk to her anymore. He then started his normal verbal abuse and name-calling and I put down the phone on him, I will be going bck to South Africa, there is nothing that will keep me from seeing Xaynee then!
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